Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Reflections on My Survey

My first thought about the survey I passed out two weeks ago is that the next time I have an idea like that I'm going to ask my friends at CARAS (https://carasresearch.org/) to help me do it. I can't believe I forgot to ask for demographic data, such as age, gender, and time in the lifestyle. I'm no Mr. Gallup, that's for sure.

But, hey, it was a spur-of-the-moment idea and that's what you answered.

My first reaction was to the question about sex. As you might know there is a raging controversy as to whether BDSM is about sex or not. The answers are rather conclusive. "Is the about sex?" 80% answered "hell yes" or "the more the merrier." Of course that doesn't tell me whether more is a three-way or more is just more sex with the same person. Either way… it is about sex. As a matter of fact the questions ranks lowest in the "No" category, gaining only 1.6% who felt that way.

On the other end of the scale, scat (shit play) is the big bug-a-boo with 40.68% saying "No way." That was followed by Needles at 34.2%, Piss at 24.3% and Breath Control at 22.8%. The chart below gives the highest ranked choice in each category:

Sex                    44.7      Hell, yes
Scat                   40.8      No and I'll rim a clean hole (tied)
Needles             34.2       I hate going to the doctors
Genitorture        30.8      That hurts. Do it again
Bondage           28.1      The Tighter the better
Cages               27.0      Sure that might be fun
Puppy Play       24.9      We need to buy some knee pads
Piss                  24.3      No or I'll rim a clean hole (tied)
D/s                   22.8      I want to serve you
Breath Control  22.8      No and A little pressure (tied)
Whip                22.3      Make it hurt
Tit Play             21.7      Clamps with rubber protectors
Ass Play           17.9      Use your dick
Verbal Abuse   13.8      I love it when you talk dirty.


The results are posted below. I'm going to take the easy way out and let you come to your own conclusions. If you are receiving a text version of this column, you can read the formatted version at leathermusings.blogspot.com.

1
Shall I whip you?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Whipping
1. Not at all 3.2% 14 No 3.2%
2. Deerskin sensations only 2.0% 9 Low Mid 61.7%
3. Mildly until I say stop 5.4% 24 High Mid 32.3%
4. A little red is nice 17.8% 79 Extreme 2.7%
5. Make it hurt 22.3% 99
6. Make me cry 14.2% 63
7. Black and blue is better 8.4% 37
8. Welts 15.8% 70
9. Blisters 2.5% 11
10. Blood 5.6% 25
11. Hamburger anyone? 2.7% 12
Other (please specify) 19
answered question 443
skipped question 14
2
Want to do scat?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Scat
1. No way 40.8% 182 No 40.8%
2. I'll kiss a clean ass 8.5% 38 Low Mid 52.6%
3. I'll rim a clean hole 40.8% 182 High Mid 4.7%
4. A dry fart is OK 2.0% 9 Extreme 1.8%
5. Give me a wet fart 0.4% 2
6. I like the taste of dingle berries 0.9% 4
7. Let me clean your dirty hole 3.6% 16
8. I'm a wiper 0.9% 4
9. I'm a flusher 0.2% 1
10. I'm a shit-eating pig. Bring on the turds. 1.8% 8
Other (please specify) 16
answered question 446
skipped question 11
3
Are you into Golden Showers (piss)?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Piss
1. That's a private thing. Not here please 24.3% 105 No 24.3%
2. I'll smell that drop on your genitals 3.0% 13 Low Mid 29.2%
3. Can I taste it? 1.4% 6 High Mid 27.3%
4. Well if you only want to piss ON me, that's OK 13.9% 60 Extreme 19.2%
5. I think you need to give me a shower 10.9% 47
6. A little on my lips is alright 7.4% 32
7. I'll drink it. 5.1% 22
8. Give it to me right from the tap 14.8% 64
9. Hell, yes. Don't waste that beer. Recycle it. 19.2% 83
Other (please specify) 24
answered question 432
skipped question 25
4
How much may I control you?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count D/s
1. We're equals Mister. Get over it 2.2% 10 No 2.2%
2. A little give and take is fun 4.9% 22 Low Mid 31.2%
3. I'll do most of what you say 4.2% 19 High Mid 52.4%
4. I like pleasing people 7.6% 34 Extreme 14.1%
5. Can we do it in the dungeon only 5.6% 25
6. It's OK for role play 8.9% 40
7. I want to serve you 22.8% 102
8. I want to be your slave 15.8% 71
9. I want to obey you always 13.8% 62
10. You are my god 14.1% 63
Other (please specify) 14
answered question 448
skipped question 9
54.0%
5
Is this about sex?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Sex
1. No. I'm saving myself 1.6% 7 No 1.6%
2. Cuddling only 1.4% 6 Low Mid 12.2%
3. Fondling and kissing is OK but keep your clothes on 0.9% 4 High Mid 50.9%
4. Groping is nice 1.8% 8 Extreme 35.3%
5. Give it to me skin to skin 2.3% 10
6. Sure but no penetration 5.8% 25
7. Sure but only anal penetration. I want to stay a virgin 0.7% 3
8. What the Hell. I love you 5.5% 24
9. Sex? Hell yes 44.7% 194
10. The more the merrier 35.3% 153
Other (please specify) 27
answered question 434
skipped question 23
6
Bondage anyone?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Bondage
1. No thanks 1.7% 7 No 1.7%
2. You know, ribbons might be nice 0.7% 3 Low Mid 12.5%
3. Can we try those handcuffs for a little while 11.8% 50 High Mid 80.0%
4. Rope is relaxing 26.2% 111 Extreme 5.9%
5. The tighter the better 28.1% 119
6. Got any plastic wrap 7.3% 31
7. Make me into a mummy 18.4% 78
8. Plaster casts are the best 5.9% 25
Other (please specify) 23
answered question 424
skipped question 33
7
Can we get anal?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Ass Play
1. Don't touch that. I'm not queer 2.3% 10 No 2.3%
2. Well a little finger on the rim feels nice 2.6% 11 Low Mid 25.7%
3. Yeah you can feel my hole 3.5% 15 High Mid 42.3%
4. I actually like that 7.0% 30 Extreme 29.8%
5. Get some lube and go in further 8.6% 37
6. How many fingers is that? 4.0% 17
7. Try using your dick will you? 17.9% 77
8. Got anything bigger? 6.7% 29
9. Put on a glove, honey. This is love 5.1% 22
10. Are you in yet? 0.5% 2
11. Wow. I took the whole thing 12.1% 52
12. No. Don't take it out 29.8% 128
Other (please specify) 15
answered question 430
skipped question 27
8
Genitorture anyone?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Genitorture
1. No. You can't hurt me there! 3.3% 14 No 3.3%
2. Touch me nice. I'm not into pain 7.9% 34 Low Mid 54.1%
3. Oh. That feels good 15.4% 66 High Mid 39.2%
4. Oh. That hurts. Do it again. 30.8% 132 Extreme 3.3%
5. Harder. I can take it 8.6% 37
6. I can take whatever you dish out 7.2% 31
7. Hit me there again. Harder. Harder. 11.0% 47
8. Pull them will you? 12.4% 53
9. You know. I think life would be easier without them 3.3% 14
Other (please specify) 16
answered question 428
skipped question 29
9
Can I needle you?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Needle Play
1. I hate going to the doctors 34.2% 145 No 34.2%
2. Well, I'll try one if you promise not to hurt me 15.3% 65 Low Mid 21.4%
3. That was nothing. Can I watch the next time 6.1% 26 High Mid 32.6%
4. How about a nice design 16.7% 71 Extreme 11.8%
5. The more the merrier – oh we said that before, didn't we? 5.7% 24
6. What's your record? Let's go for it 6.4% 27
7. Make it bleed 3.8% 16
8. Oh what a pretty color red. Can I taste it? 11.8% 50
Other (please specify) 20
answered question 424
skipped question 33
10
Titty, titty, bang, bang?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Tit Play
1. Hands off. Touching them does nothing for me. 1.9% 8 No 1.9%
2. Brush them nicely, I said 8.6% 37 Low Mid 30.3%
3. Clamps? Sure if they got rubber protectors 21.7% 93 High Mid 32.5%
4. Harder. I can take it. Do I have to repeat myself? 12.4% 53 Extreme 35.3%
5. Can you take off those rubber protectors 5.4% 23
6. Got any needles 5.8% 25
7. Let's twist again like we did last summer 8.9% 38
8. Oh good. They'll be really sore tomorrow 35.3% 151
Other (please specify) 17
answered question 428
skipped question 29
11
Are you into breath control?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Breath Control
1. I agree with J.W. That's too dangerous 22.8% 96 No 22.8%
2. Caress my neck. Don't squeeze 12.1% 51 Low Mid 34.9%
3. A little pressure is exciting 22.8% 96 High Mid 40.1%
4. Got any rope 2.1% 9 Extreme 2.1%
5. Make me think it's dangerous. I like the feeling of fear 19.5% 82
6. Do it until I say stop 3.6% 15
7. Oh, I can't say stop 5.9% 25
8. Did I really pass out? For how long 9.0% 38
9. Wake up I said. Wake up. Oh, God, please wake up. 2.1% 9
Other (please specify) 10
answered question 421
skipped question 36
12
Are you being cagey with me?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Cages
1. You want me in there? 10.5% 43 No 10.5%
2. Well if you don't shut the door 1.7% 7 Low Mid 34.5%
3. OK if you don't lock the door 5.8% 24 High Mid 39.9%
4. Sure that might be fun 27.0% 111 Extreme 15.1%
5. For how long did you say? 11.2% 46
6. Is my time over already 12.9% 53
7. Yeah I don't mind being left alone 15.8% 65
8. You back so soon? 15.1% 62
Other (please specify) 14
answered question 411
skipped question 46
13
"Woof, Woof," I said.
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Puppy Play
1. No. I am a responsible adult 17.1% 71 No 17.1%
2. Does that mean I can play with your bone, er? 10.1% 42 Low Mid 30.6%
3. On all fours like this? 9.4% 39 High Mid 43.5%
4. Got a doggie collar 11.1% 46 Extreme 8.7%
5. I like leashes 18.6% 77
6. We need to buy some knee pads 24.9% 103
7. Where's the Alpo? 8.7% 36
Other (please specify) 16
answered question 414
skipped question 43
14
What kind of person do you think I am?
Answer Options Response Percent Response Count Verbal Abuse
1. Respect me or else 10.1% 42 No 10.1%
2. Will you respect me in the morning 3.4% 14 Low Mid 25.5%
3. Well, OK, but don't use the N word 2.7% 11 High Mid 40.1%
4. I like it when you talk dirty. 13.8% 57 Extreme 24.4%
5. Got any other four letter words 5.6% 23
6. You make me feel like trash. Talk to me some more 5.1% 21
7. How low do you want me to go? 4.8% 20
8. One man's trash is another man's treasure 6.3% 26
9. Humiliation is good for the soul 9.4% 39
10. Degradation makes me hard/wet 8.0% 33
11. I deserve it Sir/Ma'am 6.5% 27
12. I need it Sir/Ma'am 24.4% 101
Other (please specify) 10
answered question 414
skipped question 43


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